In a nutshell, the book is fantastic! It was the first book I’ve read on the subject in a long time that made complete sense to me, and I have implemented so many things already that have made a dramatic difference in my goal to become more Type B. So much so that I plan on reading it again.
The book first talks about why we feel stress, then goes on to talk about the five principles to follow to relieve stress: Gratitude, Compassion, Acceptance, Higher Meaning, and Forgiveness. There are chapters on each of course, which go into a lot of detail.
There is no doubt about it that you just can’t read a book on stress-free living, and expect to be “cured.” The main thing I’ve gotten out of the first round of reading the book is being aware of what my stress triggers are, and trying to stop myself before I get upset, using the principles in the book.
I’m sure a lot of you are aware of the Sorry Not Sorry campaign going around the internet right now. If not, take some time out to watch it.
It made me aware of how much we, especially women, use the words, “I’m sorry,” when there were other less passive words to say instead, like “excuse me.”
I walked around that week and couldn’t help but notice how many times we say, “I’m sorry.” It seemed everyone was saying it. I even brought it up during my volleyball game with friends, and once I did we couldn’t concentrate, because we found ourselves saying “I’m sorry” all the time.
The same awareness is true about utilizing this book. So many of my stress triggers involve me not getting what I want. Maybe it was the car in front of me driving too slow (don’t they know I left the house late and might miss my appointment?!, or the fact that someone canceled plans on me (but I really wanted to see that movie tonight!).
So whenever I felt those familiar feelings, I started practicing one or more of the five principles: the driver in front of me might have mechanical problems, or maybe they are bringing their newborn home from the hospital for the first time, or the person canceling movie plans might have had the worst day at work ever, and just needed alone time. I mean I’ve certainly canceled plans before. The main principles I used were compassion, acceptance, and forgiveness.
So when I’m annoyed for whatever reason, I first have to be aware, then I practice. And practice some more…and perhaps it might always feel like hard work. But maybe someday it won’t…and the calmness will happen without even having to be aware anymore.
Anyway, it’s a good book, and I highly recommend picking it up at the library.
Here is the author talking more about the book:
Do you know what your stress triggers are, and have you ever thought about trying to move past them?
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